To the Pastors of the Churches of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, grace, peace from God our Father and Christ Jesus our Lord. I thank God for his son Jesus who died on the cross that we might be saved. For God so loved the World, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life (John 3:16). Glory to his name. Amen.
I am writing to you concerning proper behavior as Pastors concerning marriage and adultery. Not as judgment, but to insure that you understand the Word of God concerning this issue. My prayer for you is that you have a personal relationship with God. Jesus is the only perfect man that ever walked the face of the earth. No sin was found in him; not even death could hold him. I am not questioning your salvation because I believe you are saved. My purpose is to remind you what the Word of God says concerning the issue of marriage and adultery.
When we all get married, we all make vows to our wives in the presence of God, a minister, and a witness. God views these marriage vows as divine ordinance (Genesis 2:18-24), as evidence of a man’s desire to love his wife as Christ loves the church. Husbands love your wives just a Christ loved the church and gave himself (Ephesians 5). Husbands ought to love their wives as their own body. God ordained marriage between a man and a woman as the closest union between two human beings. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder (Mark 10:9). That means that if another comes between a man and his wife and causes separation, they are asunder. When the vows are broken (to love and to cherish), the covenant you have made with God and your wife becomes weakened. The thief then comes to kill, steal, and destroy the marriage (John 10:10). When a man of God gives his word in marriage, no matter how difficult it may seem at times, he gave his word to God, and to his wife, to love her in sickness, and in health, and until death.
In these times, I have seen families and churches destroyed because of the issue concerning marriage and adultery. Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge (Hebrews 13:4). (I Timothy 3:2-7) says the Overseer (Pastor) must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent, but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family and see that his children obey him with proper respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take-care of God’s church?) He must not be a new convert, or he may become conceited and fall under the same judgment as the devil. He must also have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil’s trap.
In Genesis 2, God made woman from the rib of the man. Adam said this is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh. God also said for this reason man will leave his father and mother and be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. The bible says, and they, man and woman shall become one flesh. In Proverbs 18:22, the bible says he that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour of the Lord. In I Corinthians 7, the bible says that each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. What that means is that you belong to your wife and your wife belongs to you. You should give her and she should give you due reverence and respect. It does not say to share yourself with another women. Any relationship not functioning according to Gods word is in sin. When you bring dishonor on your wife with another women, you disrespect and humiliate her publicly. Not only do you disrespect and humiliate her; you disrespect and humiliate yourself. Remember the Word of God says as an Overseer you should be without reproach. Love your wife as Christ loves the church. You are Men of God that minister to a flock of people. You are their shepherd, their spiritual father.