How My World Is Constructed Through Interpersonal Communication?How My World Is Constructed Through Interpersonal Communication?Our world is constructed through communication of many different levels with different perspectives. We live and communicate within traditions of communication. A constructionist perspective invites us to: feel liberated – not needing to fight over what is “right”, “real”, or “absolute” – creatively explore the “taken-for-granted” – be curious about multiple views, positions, and values – search for new ways of talking that lead to other possibilities. There are many rules we live by, either if they are known or just subconscious such as social ghosts, language games, social positioning, social surviving and reframing.
There are language games that we all generally follow which have social-scripts that we use intently or unintendly to express ourselves or/and to get things done. For so long, I have thought the concept of language game was a bad thing via playing games with people mentally and emotionally ‘til now, after learning its true meaning. It was more of the opposite, violating the rules of language games. So, we tend to reframe our conversations to avoid breaking the rules of language games for many reasons, whether we did it on purpose or not. We listen to verbal/non-verbal communication and to our social ghosts in our subconscious. All are for us to communicate with each other daily, with people we see daily, people we know nearby or at distance, new people we meet and/or strangers. Communication is how we all survive as in social-surviving by how we get something across in a culture where we dont know their language or getting by with something, either mentally or emotionally.
For social ghosts, they are voices within us. On the positive side, Jesus Christ, our Savior is the one thats my daily spiritual guide and my husbands mother as my mother-in-law is my inner-emotional support. She also is my encourager and who I respect in many ways. On the negative side, my mother as a perfectionist, is the one who had been dominating my low self-esteem for many years that I felt I would never meet her too high standards such as I didnt believe I would make it to college and graduate at all while I knew I could but for some reason, I believed her for soo long ‘til I met my husband and his mother. At times of low points, I still hear her saying “See, I told you – you cant make or handle it” or “You are very lucky to make it this far, but I doubt youll make it to graduation”. She actually said that at my junior high graduation. I dont talk with her anymore as she never calls me, but I do try to keep in touch with her once or twice a year. She still thinks that I am lucky to be here, but it doesnt hurt me as bad as before. I used to feel those are the worse words that would put me down and give-up easily, but now after I have been through the worse and since I have learned that all those things she said to me in the past werent true so I put aside her comments. Now, I listen to my mother-in-law and other people around me that have been and seen me around more often than my mother. They know me more than her so I feel much better about myself, and push myself to do the hardest I can. I do believe that I will graduate from Gallaudet University, with all the support from close friends and in-laws. Just like the bible says “You can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. ?
My husband and his mother are the key people whose opinions and advices I value in my daily life. Both are deaf, from deaf families. My husband has been in my life daily for 15 years, still is, and continues for many more years to come. There have been a lot of rocky roads leading to emotional roller coasters from time to time, which now is getting a lot better since I have learned some tips on improving my listening and communication skills. Those listening and communication skills I have learned are mostly how to reframe, listen better, and less repeating comments via Unwanted Repetitive Patterns (URPs).
The most URPs I believe we all have today are related to our phones via texts and Instant Messages (IMs) in the matter of not responding right away. Thats exactly the same for my husband and me, such as “Why didnt you respond my IMs earlier today? What did you do at that time?” then its up to us to believe or not. The longer the time no response, the more emotional we women tend to be. Men dont think of it as a big deal ‘til we dont respond them in the same matter, they get more upset about it – even if its the same thing, isnt that ironic? So, over the time with learning about URPs – I have learned to accept because its the same thing both ways, especially here at Gallaudet. Plus, its a good way to build trust and humor by saying things like “Ohh,
. I think hes a good guy.
-M.
A very nice thread to hear from Gallaudet students, but I’m a little worried about what they may think of the matter. Why are the URPs listed as a thing but not on their website, and why isn’t that mentioned in the FAQ?
It is not on their website, so if you call to ask where URPs are listed, the service will give you an answer that is not included on their social platforms. The answer is not really “there are so many URPs for everyone” though, so if there are, that is an issue. However, they have said they have created the web page and have tried to contact you directly with issues.
It is probably a thing that should be removed
-M. Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2014 5:21 pm Post subject: I think thats it. There’s a “I should call and ask where URPs are listed, the service will give you a answer that is not included on their social platforms. The answer is not really “there are so many URPs for everyone” though, so if there are, that is an issue. However, they have said they have created the web page and have tried to contact you directly with issues.
-M.
It’s not on their website, so if you call to ask where URPs are listed, the service will give you an answer that is not included on its social platforms. The answer is not really “there are so many URPs for everyone” though, so if there are, that is an issue. However, they have said they have created the web page and have tried to contact you directly with issues.
I think its a thing that should be removed imo. It is not on their website, so if you call to ask where URPs are listed, the service will give you an answer that is not included on their social platforms. The answer is not really “there are so many URPs for everyone” though, so if there are, that is an issue. However, they have said they have created the web page and have tried to contact you directly with issues.I think its a thing that should be removed imo.
This would be a good site to build trust a bit more.
-M Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2014 5:46 pm Post subject: Is that a problem or if it is the one thing your friends (even if they still have your number it probably looks like a coincidence, it still got pulled from their facebook) can ask for now. Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2014 5:49 pm Post subject: It’s not on their website. I’ve mentioned that in an emailed response. I agree with most of Gallaudet students but you all know I