What We Talk About When We Talk About LoveWhat We Talk About When We Talk About LoveAfter analyzing Raymond Carver’s “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love,” it is easy to see that there are several different ideas concerning true love that the characters in the story are in dispute over. Terri’s idea of real love is the most valid out of the group at the table. All of the members of the group are rather confused as to what real love is. Terri is included as one of the confused. However, I believe that she is the closest to understanding what love is. A key piece of evidence demonstrating her understanding of love is her remark to Laura and Nick. She scolds the couple for basing their relationship on physical aspects, rather than emotion or passion. Terri, like the rest of the party, is on her second marriage. Her first husband was an abusive man that beat her, and even dragged her by her ankles around their living room. Terri’s current husband, Mel, is a cardiologist that believes in spiritual love, and that between spouses, people are barren and hollow inside, and that he could be married to any other empty person without difference. Mel is rather shielded from emotion between spouses. His only real love lies with his children, unfortunately Mel allows his conflict with his ex wife to block him from calling his them. Terri does love Mel, but she reminisces about her time with Ed. Terri realizes that Ed was full of emotion, and that he was just befuddled and chaotic in his methods of sharing his feelings. This explains his violent behavior and possibly his suicide. During the argument concerning Ed’s actions, Terri mentions that Ed “loved her in his own way.” It is my opinion that throughout Terri’s experiences with different husbands, she sees that while Ed was abusive, he had passion. Mel on the other hand, is not passionate. It seems as though Terri favored marriage with Ed over marriage with Mel.
In Raymond Carver’s story “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love,” there is a wide array of opinions concerning the true definition of love. I believe that the character with the most absurd idea of love is Mel. Mel is Terri’s second husband. He claims to only believe in spiritual love. In his past, Mel spent “five years in seminary.” This is obviously what he bases his idea upon. Mel declares that if he could go back in time, he would enjoy being a knight in armor to shield him from other people. This reveals to me that Mel is emotionally closed off and concealed from other people. Furthermore, as seen through his wife, Terri, Mel does not have the passion inside him that is necessary to experience love. The only love that Mel does experience is the love toward his children, but that is love in a different sense. Loving his children is a natural instinct. They are born into his care, and
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What about our love for my own family? I’ve had my own love stories, but it has tended to be something more personal than the intimate, the loving, the selflessness that I often feel. Love is so personal in its own right that I find it hard to express, understand, treat as an emotion. This has led me to believe that love is much broader and richer than I have thought. For an individual to love and have a true love for others, is almost impossible.‡ It is also very difficult to truly share your own love with anyone other than others.
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I did not know what to think about this, but that’s a subject that is already well covered on this site and that is one of my favorite things about this book. I found it somewhat satisfying to try and explain some of the aspects of the story for my readers.
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I’ve also read other people’s memories and what they have told me about their own experiences in the past. For me being honest, I do believe it is important that people remember what they have learned in that moment. This is a point that I thought made some of you think as well….I have a personal passion for Mary and it makes me feel like I am about to get married.
There is also an ongoing story in my novel, The Woman With Love that some of my friends have experienced, with great success. The woman that I love has told me about how wonderful her story was because it helped to make my life a whole lot easier. I know and love from her other stories, and I’ve felt something for her that she has always had in me.
My second issue, as well as my wife’s second, is a story written by Patrick, who is a pretty good writer. He writes a couple of great stories and he gives me a lot of insights on why these books are good. When I read these stories, I get to feel as if they are going to be what they are. One is a story of a man who discovers that he’s married to a man that is truly loveable. While I don’t think Patrick could actually have told that story, for sure he has a few different possibilities (including this one).
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I’ve noticed that I’m having a harder reading at times. Since I did find it to be an interesting story, I’ve wanted to write more of it.
I’m a big fan of books about the people and how people have changed since that moment when I was a kid. I also tend to be somewhat nostalgic for the person who had a positive effect on me all those years ago. I enjoy what I read about those who are still alive, but not as much as I would like to feel the emotions I have about when those were very real and intense.
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One is that there is a very beautiful moment, where a boy is raised by two adults on their first day in school who share a love story.… That’s the kind of thing I want to share in this book. He is the first man raised by six. He was raised by his mother, a man