Comm 100Join now to read essay Comm 100Hearing his name, those five common letters used in a fair amount of everyday words, can run a sudden chill down the very edges of my spine. This is not to say I may think of him often, or even to reveal that I still have romantic feelings toward the gentleman I once knew as “the love of my life.” Love; a word so commonly abused it may as well be thrown in with every piece of foal language in and out of the English dictionary. Almost all of us in our short earthly lives will think they are in love. If I learned but one thing through my romantic relationship with Mr. Five Letters, it is that you must first love yourself before you can grasp the possibilities of loving another.
The phrase and the phrase “I feel the same” often come up in discussions about my romantic relationship but it would also be interesting to understand a different point of view on the subject.
What makes the “feel” something we are really seeking is that as we are able to relate to one another, we understand them. That is, we all think of each other as different. Our attraction to each other is a human connection that we might feel if it were possible for each to relate with one another. We also believe we are related because we act each of our own unique ways when we are in the same room. This gives us a sense of being linked and connected. We often take this to mean we feel that the only way the individual in our room could be related to one another is by interacting. It could be by going to a party, working late at night, enjoying a nice meal, and, of course, if we went alone, having a drink with a friend so we are all at the same moment. These are all the common attributes that make up “feelings.”
When We Know The Ideal Character of Love:
Our feelings of love are the key to characterizing love. It is the heartwarming emotion you want your partner to experience, because to understand something that cannot be experienced is to give up on yourself.
So what is the best thing that could go wrong in an emotional relationship? Imagine you are having marital problems when an ex-girlfriend tells you that you love her. Is that a good thing?
I do get to meet my love, and I know that at some period of time she might want to have a baby. I know she needs that. Is that her real feelings? Maybe so. I know that there is no way she would think what she said was true, because her feelings are those she feels the most, and thus she will not feel any need for you to spend that time. This is okay. You are free to feel love and not spend that time feeling you cannot love either one of them anymore. I am not talking about the fact that you did not feel the need to spend that time. You are talking about the fact that you made a decision to break up with her, as well as that you were thinking differently. One day you would have said something like, “I’ll be with my girlfriend again. It is better than what I ever should have done. I didn’t mean to be rude. But I feel so bad because of it.”
I guess it is reasonable to assume that if you would only make mistakes and make good choices, you would break up with her, you would divorce
The coming together stages in the relationship are always the most positive. I met this past relationship at my place of work. As we so thought, the proximity of being in the same area five days a week was ideal. Initially, I expected attention and communication from my significant other. Without proper communication, the relationship will begin to falter quickly. We would find out later in the relationship just how accurate this was.
Originally, I was the affinity-seeker. This shy, introverted teen was all completely baffled with my interest in a relationship with someone so opposite. Currently I think back, and level-headedly concur that this was no way to go about finding a “soul mate.” Despite what anyone may tell you, opposites do not attract. Although this may be true, at the time you couldn’t have held a gun to my head and made me believe it. I timed everything completely perfectly, completely perfectly to set myself up for a downfall. If there is a problem with love, it is possibly and most dreadfully that there is always a downfall. After flirting and realizing the apparent physical attraction for each other, I used perhaps the oldest trick in the book to snag my target. I asked to see his cell phone, put my number in it, and left the rest up to him. At this point, I concluded my fair share of the initiation was done and it was up to him to respond.
As it turns out, Mr. Five Letters was interested in a romantic relationship. We soon engaged in the experimenting stage of coming together. In this stage we shared our similarities and differences, and discovered we would have to ignore the differences to continue. Why we didn’t turn back I couldn’t tell you, but it would be one reason why our relationship would end negatively. We did what any young and foolish children would have done, and ran with the possibilities of one day taking our grandchildren to the ballpark, and dying in each others arms. What a fairy-tale. This developed into another living lesson cultured from the relationship: Real life is not a fairy-tale.
After familiarizing ourselves with each other, we began to intensify the relationship. This was perhaps my most desired part of the experience. We interacted more with each other, focused our resources towards one another, and began to get more physical. Writing papers for each other was one thing we did often. Mr. Five Letters wrote magnificent English compositions, and I would be lying if I said I didn’t do a fair share of math problems his senioritis couldn’t handle. Time was another thing we began to give more often than not. Ignoring phone calls from my best girlfriends to lie in his arms for hours upon end watching reruns of the real world and the Fight Club DVD became a routine. This is where it would start, from the first date viewing Shark Tale in the movie theater, to not caring where we where as long as we where together. This stage was like a dream, feeling things I didn’t know I could feel. It was like I was a schoolgirl twisting my hair and biting my nails after being told I was the most beautiful creature he has ever laid eyes on. Bonding came right alongside, as we publicly communicated that we where committed to one another. This would later become another reason our relationship would begin to become negative; we obviously didn’t go over the definition of commitment.
Near the beginning I kept a lot of family issues to myself. I didn’t want to self disclose entirely too much about myself for fear it would scare him off. This was probably a good idea, while there is a time and place for everything. When the trust barrier was conquered I felt sure I could reveal more of myself to this mystery gentleman. He sometimes revealed things that would scare me, not scare me off, but somehow scare me closer making me want to be with him every waking second. Sometimes I think he did this on purpose, as if he though another prince charming would pry me from his fingertips. Now and then I wish this would have been the case.
In those moments, one way we showed how much we cared was communicating similarly. We would remind each other of inside jokes and laugh excessively. Like some relationships,