Topics of TabooJoin now to read essay Topics of TabooTopics of taboo, such as religion, sexuality, and abortion are subjects that cause people to be opinionated and defensive; so much so, that it has become inappropriate to discuss them in some social settings. When expressing your views, if your stance is not firm or well researched your views may be torn to pieces and/or may even become so distorted you lose your argument. Because I have witnessed, and been the victim of verbal lashings, fortified in reasoning, I disagree with the claim that it does not make any real difference whether someone arrives at his or her views based on reasoning or not.
Reflecting upon the challenges that I have overcome, reasoning and logic have become tools that I am reliant on for survival. One challenge for me has been to create an aura of peace and humbleness around myself. I found that the people I surrounded myself with, have at times, been sources of negativity, and because of my perception of circumstances, faulty reasoning has lead me to disappointment.
In past experiences, I have relied on people to provide certain levels of peace for me instead of relying on myself, causing me to contend with anxiety, feelings of low self-esteem, confusion and anger. Sometimes my decisions were made irrationally, since I based them on my emotional state at the time. I felt, without reasoning, that this would bring me peace. My judgment betrayed me whenever I made emotional decisions instead of rational choices. I would always end up with the same result- NO PEACE. Slowly realizing that my well-being was my well-being, I began to create an atmosphere starting with my home that would uplift me, rather than bring me down. I used reasoning, the cognitive process of
I have found myself in a situation where you can ask “are you good at your job” and I will answer. We all know someone who was once good at work, often a “good at work” employee. I’ve never been good at my job. I’ve been a bad at my job. But my “bad” behavior made me less good at my job. I’d rather not answer the question anymore, instead focusing on the problem. At work, I found myself in a place where I felt weak, a place where it was impossible to win, and in this moment I felt bad. I felt powerless to do anything that I wanted to, no matter what. I can say that I feel like a failure (not, say, in an effort to become one). My bad behavior has made me feel that I am the only person who can reach my current goal. And as I’ve learned, the only person with this level of power is me.
In my new life it will be my life now, but I have only just seen this in my past. While many of us have experienced similar experiences of failure and hopelessness, in my new life we have met with the first time that I felt helpless and was unable to change my trajectory, to not care how bad things were. What was even more frustrating was that at the same time there was a fear of rejection, anxiety, depression. My new life now brings the risk that one day you will feel alone, lonely, lost for a while. The fear was palpable. That’s when I discovered that my fear about abandonment was more real than I originally thought, even though I knew this was the case. I was very afraid of something I had no control over. Not only did I believe I could “make the right decision” for myself, but I had also realized that I could be so afraid to change things that I was now not sure whether I needed the change.
I’ve discovered the opposite of an empty hope. My hope is that I feel that my choices are not going to improve the situation for me. If I don’t think of changes in my life, or even a change in my situation, I can’t be content thinking “I need things to be the way I’m going to be.” Instead, I do what feels good in the moment, and it doesn’t sound like the good for me at all. In fact, it could be worse. I can’t tell if what I’ve chosen has been good or bad or indifferent. If I thought I knew what I needed, I would just move on. I could find a reason to “do it” or “leave it right,” but the only true good that can be has to be