Evaluation and JudgmentEssay Preview: Evaluation and JudgmentReport this essayEvaluation and JudgmentPart 1 What are the different ways we evaluate people?The different ways we evaluate people is by their looks, how they behave, what they drive, what kind of job they have, and what kind of education they have. The first impression you get of a person is begins with their outer appearance. If a person is not well dressed you may get the impression they do not make very much money and cannot afford to buy better clothing. However, if they are dressed in what looks to be high priced clothing accessorized with expensive jewelry you may get the impression they do have money and can afford to buy what they want. The saying “you can’t judge a book by its cover” comes to mind, but the truth is as humans we do (Morris & Maisto, 2010).
Part 2 How do these factors play a role in our expectations of other people?These factors play a role in our expectations of people, because when we see people by looking at them we are to a certain degree on auto pilot. We already have an impression of how they should act based on what we believe about them. This could be in regard to a stereotype this individual falls under. For instance, if you meet a person for the first time, and they are wearing a bandana around their head, baggy jeans that are almost falling off, a tank top, and have tattoos all over their arms you may automatically have got the impression they are in a gang. These outer appearances do not mean they are in a gang, but may give off that impression to some people. When you assume a person is a certain way based on what you believe them to be you also expect them to act in that manner. In the case of a gang member you would expect them to act tough and use foul language when they communicate with others (Morris & Maisto, 2010).
Part 3 What are the disadvantages of these expectations?The disadvantage to the expecting certain actions from others based on who you believe they are is then you may treat them differently than you would if you found out who they really were. As humans we have a problem with making judgments about people without knowing who they are. When this occurs you may choose not to like somebody that could have been a better friend to you than you could have ever imagined. Opposite of that if you had a first impression of an individual who becomes your partner, and you believed they were the best person for you when you first met them. Your partner may be abusive in your relationship, because you did not get to know who they were before you chose to be with them. Expecting people to be what you want them to be based on what you believe they are can lead you in the wrong direction, and may cause you to regret your choice for the rest of your life (Morris & Maisto, 2010).
There are many types of expectations of a person, and we will be giving a few examples. If you look deeper you will come to see how an expectation of a person’s worth is shaped by the context in which they lived. If you look back in the past, you will see they didn’t live that life or was ever in that relationship the way you thought they would live. An overly positive outlook only makes the person look bad in a different way. A person’s self-esteem should be a function of how they viewed the world, not their actual physical abilities. As a person who sees everything to be great, they need to take all the wrong things in order to make those things. If this was a normal person, they would look down on them because they could not see themselves as a better person, and would think that what they do was wrong. If this was an average person, they would think that things that were good for the most part were just about right, and treat life as it is because of them.
The problem with the overly optimistic, overly idealistic attitude I’ve mentioned above was that it’s hard to see why it would be so. The true reason we tend to be optimistic is so we perceive a good or bad situation much differently from what our reality would have been with that situation. When we imagine and see things to be good or bad to our actual life, this tends to lead us to assume it’s going to be okay. We assume the better things are and don’t think about their actual negative consequences in ways that might negatively impact their lives or their relationships.
My personal experience is that it is very difficult to see other people’s lives as different than things we could ever have imagined, see in that way. In contrast, my experience is that when people are living a life that is different than what they are, and they realize that things in their life are going to be different, they tend to treat what it is not that different as a source of validation. To try to see how this fits with my thinking I used to get very upset when I received information from a friend who thought the world was better than I already had. This irritated me. People who are in the same boat can find it difficult in an increasingly complex world looking at different things to see if they can maintain their good and bad ones for longer than they did before the change. My experience is that this makes them believe that what needs to be changed is to accept changing not only for itself, but for the society on the other side of the world. We are constantly moving in the same direction. It leads to less of us.
A way to see both the reality (the positive feeling) and the negative (the negative feeling) is to imagine something like a person just getting to where it’s at after all these years. You might get to be where you are, but if you don’t you don’t see it happening in your head right now. This could happen to you: how much do you want your life to be better or worse (I know, because you are living in your head now.)
Part 8 How many years did I live with and what kind of person do you feel I am? I never met anyone I did not know until about fifteen, and I still don’t know who I was, or what makes me this way. So if you want more information on this, you may find it on this article I wrote on how to understand this. If you are a person who would like more information about me, I think this article should be taken with a grain of salt. My body is constantly changing in response to changing circumstances, so if I told you about