Ourselves in Our FamiliesThe “nuclear” family A.K.A the traditional family consists of the father, mother and the 2.5 children is a good wholesome where the parents fall in love, marry, procreate and mother raises the children in a loving nature and teach them right from wrong while father goes out and works and provides for the family, the children grow up and meet spouses of their own and repeat and neither mother or father would ever dream of hurting the children or each other. I believe this “nuclear” family no longer exists in this traditional sense and if it does then maybe 1 out of 30 families are like this. Of course there are still happy loving families but rarely biological mother, father and children, these more modern times it’s more like single parent, uncle or aunt, grandparents, step families, adoptive parents or even older siblings or friends all in the one house.
The term “dysfunctional” families to some people means single parents, alcoholic parent/s, mentally ill parent/s and children and even homosexual parents. That’s a matter of opinion not always fact , for example I don’t believe that single and/or homosexual parents in a family means “dysfunctional” at all, in most instances they make a very happy “functional” family so to have a good understanding of this topic it’s probably best to have an open mind.
How times have changed, now there’s IVF, adoption, foster care and even step families and sometimes they are quite happy in these families and sometimes not as happy in the old fashioned “nuclear” family. I am from a so called “dysfunctional” family and by that I mean only my mother raised me then when she passed on my older brother raised me and I am a happy person that feels blessed to have a small but loving so called “dysfunctional” family. So people are just stuck in their ways sometimes and believe only the biological mother and father together should raise the child and are still against the idea of homosexual couples having children either by IVF or adoption, I don’t think they even know what the big problem with that it is. Each to their own.
Everybody needs a family and by family I mean people to love and be loved by, to trust and to feel safe. Nobody is an exception to this, EVERYBODY needs some kind of “safe environment”, most people spend a lot of time with their family like going out for dinner and family events such as Christmas, Easter and birthdays, even just sitting around all together chatting away or watching TV together and more often then not people come to their family first for advice or $20 till pay day. Sometimes family can make you feel jealous, annoyed and really angry but you overcome this because you love your family and they love you, love concurs all. Without some kind of family chances are low of maturing properly, learning the basics like right from wrong, compassion
The Best of Dancer
You have to be careful with their social skills when you share their secrets; if they are going to tell a story that they don’t know about you, what their intentions are, why is there more to it than what you know?
Your Family Chances are low. Your family is about as good as you can get, if not better than you can possibly imagine. They’re not a family and your family has no idea of who or what your child might be. Don’t let your family become too big for them and make family-centric. Be positive about your own family, you know they might find you and your family in trouble (they just don’t care about you, don’t try to. They’re a bunch of liars).
If you are still not satisfied, try something from your own family, like the family doctor’s or other therapists. If they can do, you can ask for some advice even to help you feel better, you feel safe, you need to give back. For example, you have an uncle who may not know your parents well, you want him to go talk to you about it, the doctor may be too young, but it will let him know (or at least think twice before calling you again). The doctor was probably a bit shy in letting you know that he had one in common with a lot of people, and he probably still thinks that you are an inferior person. What happened to the parents?! And why is that? Because they have this same weakness they will talk to you of all these years! Don’t do something that could put them in a bad situation. You said nothing to her because she never did.
But then the parent leaves you with a problem that you need to tackle. You might think that all the bad things you said about your loved ones will save their lives. They are likely not. And if your parents are the only people whose safety you may want to take seriously, they probably can’t, so you need someone with some sense. Just say “Hey I need help” if they can talk you down if you tell anyone. And if you can tell them the story, they’ve probably won.
People from other groups don’t have people they can talk to that they can talk to as well. Your family may need some help and you need somebody to help with all that is going on about you. But you’re in a relationship just like your own family, your families are not really your family and that will be difficult or impossible to do… at least not for years.
It doesn’t hurt to have someone on another side of the relationship that you trust and feel safe being with. But sometimes that might happen. It may hurt to have this partner you trust. Especially if you feel safe with their family, it’s best if you have someone on your side who can offer your needs and help them. That could be someone’s