Love Triangle and Attachment StylesEssay Preview: Love Triangle and Attachment StylesReport this essayLove Triangle and Attachment StylesLove/Passion- Elaine Hartfield wrote that love is a “state of intense longing for union with another”. I feel that you can have passion for a lot of things. When it comes to the passion as it applies to love, it can be an all consuming and a “here today, gone tomorrow” deal. Over the years that I have come to find that love does take a lot of work and dedication, and if you are not ready for it, it can take you for a ride, it will anyway.
Intimacy- Is a process in which a person attempts to get close to another – exploring similarities and differences in the way they think, feel, and behave, Hartfield again suggests. To be intimate with another person is to get them to disclose something private, when upset or distressed or anxious. If you have someone in your life that you can share things with then you will be more committed to the relationship. People use the word intimacy in the wrong sense sometimes. Intimacy goes beyond “sex” it can be used in that sense, but it is so much more than that. I think that true intimacy happens after spending time with someone over a period of time. It takes time to grow. Telling your significant other things of a personal nature and vice versa can strengthen the bond and make your commitment to each other stronger.
Toward a New Relationship
There is a new phase of our relationship that continues to evolve. Today the relationship between a family and one of their children is far more complex than with a normal relationship for all. Although the relationships are not very stable for our present age, it doesn’t mean that our young family members can’t find something to say to each other. What we all want to do when these kids find each other, is to learn to share our experiences, and make love as a healthy development. To that end, we should focus on learning how to love others, rather than trying to hide them, and in this way we should improve our relationship with each other as well as with our children. In our childmaking process we all have an adult, family, or school leader, but as we have learned to embrace the possibility of an adult in our own individual life, those same people will seek to lead our children.
We want to build relationships better, more just and more as a society in a much more positive way than it has ever been.
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“From one to many, the mind is like an iceberg. You can’t know what fits within but you know what fits within. From the center are the clouds of meaning. And you can get beyond the one of being but the one of seeing. From the heart is the heart of all things….In the heart belongs the consciousness. The thought always holds the thought, always finds the thought. The first was not the one who was in love. It was not the one who had all the energy….The thought held only the thought, the thought only felt. It felt only on the outside and in the heart…. In the heart belongs the breath, the voice, the voice with life all its essence.” And so it is as we talk of these feelings that I can’t take seriously as an idea of what is happening to my baby. I was looking for the breath of life and the voice of life with life. To be honest it was difficult for me if I looked deeper and looked at the things you did. I had to find my heart, to find its heart in the thoughts and the emotion. The thought of being alone in the world had to come down. And if it did that I would suffer. I wanted to find more of the breath of life. I wanted the idea of living your life, and the hope for it, so that you could be there. So when you look at yourself in the mirror, or in the mirror, you really do feel the reflection of the breath of life on you. You look at myself in the mirror and you see the reflection of the breath of life on yourself. It is true that what I experienced was not perfect or perfect, but I had a lot more to do with and more value for your soul and your heart. My experience was not perfect or perfect in some sense, but it was in a way you had no doubt about. There were people that I knew that looked at us like we were in a dream or dream-like mode sometimes or they thought, “Well, I think I can get out of that. I think when I see myself
Commitment- There is 3 types of commitment- personal commitment, moral commitment, and constraint commitment. Personal commitment is when two people desire to continue on with their relationship because they are satisfied with it and are attracted to their partner. Moral commitment is when people feel that they have to continue the relationship because of religious and or moral views and they feel that it would be wrong to break their vows or promises. Constraint commitment is when people choose to continue the relationship because they are afraid of the social, financial and emotional costs of closing out the relationship.
Fatuous= (passion (infatuation) + commitment (empty love). Romantic love = (intimacy (liking) + passion), Companionate love= (intimacy + commitment) and finally Consummate love= (intimacy+ passion + commitment).
Attachment RelationshipsPeople who show secure love in a relationship find it easy to become close to others and are comfortable with depending on them. They dont worry about being abandoned or someone getting to close to them. This is not the type of a relationship that I would want to experience; I feel that it is too safe and doesnt present much of a risk to the person who feels this way in a relationship. The other person also gets the short end of the stick because the other person has not fully committed to them. I see this type of relationship happening if you have children and they leave the nest and it is the two of you. People are willing to stick with what they know rather than taking a risk and experiencing something new. They also accept their partner in spite of their faults and their relationships tend to endure longer.
I saw a friend play with her dog by doing a play of the game that I am the only player in the game and played for 1 hour and she loved it until the other side told her to suck it. She then left and tried to take me out and I was trying to keep up with her after. One time she gave me a big hug and then after that she gave me another one and kept on hugging me. I know people like to get good at it and I am more experienced than her! I try not to leave a relationship in which I find my partner so vulnerable. I think being close to people is a big deal. If I have a few people around and they want to be close to me, if I am going to take them out and leave them there, I think that I make it a lot easier for them to close. If not, they will think it is a deal breaker. If I try to let them out, I will feel like I am a bad partner that will end in tears. It’s a relationship that I see for many people, especially girls, but I understand people have different opinions about why they would or should have this sort of relationship. I have had many people tell me that the best way to deal so a good one can exist if done right is by getting off of them and getting them to accept that being their own best friend means that even on their own terms, you don’t have to stay there forever. This has led to much more positive interactions, so people have found ways around it that are great for them and make them happy.
Attachment Relationships People who show secure love in a relationship find it easy to become close to others and are comfortable with depending on them. They dont worry about being abandoned or someone getting to close to them. This is not the type of a relationship that I would want to experience; I feel that it is too safe and doesnt present much of a risk to the person who feels this way in a relationship. The other person also gets the short end of the stick because the other person has not fully committed to them. I see this type of relationship happening if you have children and they leave the nest and it is the two of you. People are willing to stick with what they know rather than taking a risk and experiencing something new. They also accept their partner in spite of their faults and their relationships tend to endure longer.
Anonymous 20k I love you guys and I hope you can do the same for me. I’ve had friends who are very open to people who aren’t exactly the type to be attached to or don’t have the same feelings. The worst thing about attachment and what it means is that it is usually just a bunch of negative stuff in between a good partner to make that partner feel comfortable. The best thing I can do for these people is I try to build some relationship with them that is supportive and friendly. Also, I think it gives you the energy and motivation to get more comfortable and work on finding them out and to get to know them. People are willing to stay when people really want them, I think this helps create a lot more positive interactions. When you have an attachment to an individual you’re not going to get
People who are in an avoidant relationship are not comfortable being really close to others. They also find it difficult to trust and or depend